Are you the person you would want to be? What motivates you? What saddens you? Why are you driven by one thing but not another thing? Why do you feel discouraged in one situation and then the opposite in another situation? What are your values and beliefs? Where did they come from? What helped you form them? This introspection is going to be exhausting at first, but once you make it a habit to question every emotion that you have and validate it, you’ll begin to realize a pattern. This pattern will be a map to the source of any negative emotions. Here are two reasons why you fall prey to negativity and thus you can be strong in every situation:
Firstly, learn to put yourself first. It’s tough once you become a parent (vis a vis the constant worrying about your child’s well-being). However it’s imperative. It might sound counter-intuitive to everything you’ve been taught about being a good person, empathetic et al but if you want to build your self-esteem and keep it for the rest of your life, then the first thing you have to do is put yourself first. Before everything. When you put yourself first you acknowledge that you’re worth it. Whatever “it” is. The most confident people in the world take care of themselves first. After they’ve done a good job with that, then they start to give. Happy people give simple from their natures. Don’t underestimate the greatness that is the human being—we are inherently good; you are inherently good.
Secondly, know yourself. Know your fortitudes, your limitations. If you’re allergic to cats, then don’t watch your friend’s cat for them over the weekend. One of the worst things that you can do for your self-esteem is to take on a task beyond your abilities. Instead, Put the dang cat in a kennel and be done with it! If you want to push your boundaries of growth, then go for it. However, be safe first. Once you are confident of the ways you handle things in your life, others will be confident in you. Your boss will be able to trust with more work, people will trust you with their belongings and their kids. You will be able to build trustworthy relationships. to help you succeed.
How you see yourself is a mirror on the rest of the world. Feeling confident and being happy in your own skin stems from an authentic connection with your true self, and is likely to garner positivity. Authentic confidence is super sexy. It’s so sexy, it’s like an aphrodisiac. Literally! It’s like Viagra being on Prozac! Being that sexay – that gets you to your true love, lands you a perfect job and makes all your dreams come true, is authentic and inviting.