When we’re raising a child, we want them imbibe our good qualities and good qualities only! We forget that they learn from us, they act like us and above all they learn to judge right from wrong. Thus, when we can’t speak for ourselves in situations when we need to be heard, we need to realize that our child is learning the same. We need to first check on ourselves on how we are living because subconsciously, our children are picking it up as well. Thus, here are two things you need to learn in order to speak up for yourself:
Firstly, develop a good attitude. Mainly towards life. There isn’ta person out there that can harm you. People are generally good and caring. Your attitude is everything – it impacts how other people perceive you and even how you perceive yourself. Your attitude sets the tone of your voice, the quality of your thoughts and it is reflected on how you treat others around you. Remember your attitude is infectious. If you’re bubbly, happy, and bright about things, you’ll encourage those around you to feel good about themselves and the world around you.
Secondly, have confidence. Developing a strong sense of self-confidence is the first step towards speaking for yourself. If you don’t have any confidence in yourself, how can you expect the other people to? Others are quick to spot when someone is down on their luck and lacking confidence – which makes them an easy target. If you’re confident, people will be less likely to tease you or identify you as a dull person. Confidence has to come from within, so do whatever it takes to make you feel better about yourself. Learn a new skill, lose some weight, join an activity class, be ahead of your peers.
There’s a very thin line between being strong and being assertive. If requires to understand the situation first. Being assertive means you start understanding that you aren’t trying to belittle others, hear them out. There are 7 billion people in the world, the only person you have power over is You. Effective Communication (in order to be heard) requires recognizing your needs, your boundaries and respecting the boundaries of others in the equation. Ensure that theya re met or respected by changing your behaviour, do not attempt or overbear onto others. Let them respond to you, they will, if you’re concise. Don’t be loud, don’t throw your hands in the air, don’t stomp. Instead, make eye contact and then smile! Effectives is in your thoughts, it isn’t in your actions.